The following morning, I woke with a decision already made.
I would no longer discuss my father's money as though it were something Paul and I had already received.
It was a simple decision.
I wondered why it had taken me so long to make it.
Paul was in the kitchen when I came downstairs.
The financial statements from the previous evening were still on the table, stacked beside his coffee mug.
He had put the calculator away.
I sat down and opened my notebook.
“What are you doing?” he asked.
“Making a list of the things I need to discuss with Thomas.”
Paul looked at the notebook.
“Didn't you already meet with him?”
“Yes. I have more questions.”
He took a sip of coffee.
“About the money?”
“About the estate.”
He seemed dissatisfied with the distinction.
I continued writing.
I wanted to understand the documents, the responsibilities involved, and the steps that needed to happen before anything could be distributed.
I also wanted to know whether Dad had left instructions that I had not yet seen.
I did not write down any estimated amounts.
There was no point.
Paul had already shown me what happened when a guess became the foundation for a plan.
After breakfast, I called Thomas's office.
The receptionist took a message and said he would return my call when he was available.
I spent the rest of the morning dealing with ordinary things.
I answered messages from relatives.
I paid a household bill.
I checked the calendar for appointments that had been pushed aside during the funeral arrangements.
It felt strange to return to these routines while Dad's death still seemed impossible.
But the ordinary tasks helped me stay grounded.
They reminded me that my life had not stopped, even if part of it felt suspended.
Paul, meanwhile, seemed to be waiting for something.
He checked his phone often.
Twice, he asked whether Thomas had called.
Both times, I told him no.
By lunchtime, I could tell he was frustrated.
He stood near the kitchen window, looking at his phone.
“It's taking longer than I expected.”
“It's only been a short time.”
“I thought we'd have a better idea by now.”
I closed the notebook.
“A better idea of what?”
“What we're going to do.”
I looked at him.
“We already discussed what we're going to do with the money we currently have.”
He shook his head.
“You know that's not what I mean.”
I did know.
He wanted an answer about the inheritance.
He wanted to know how much money would become available and when.
He wanted to make plans for his retirement, his mother's housing, and Denise's business debts.
He wanted those plans to stop being uncertain.
But uncertainty was the only honest position available to us.
“I can't give you information I don't have.”
Paul walked away without answering.
I watched him leave the room.
For years, I had felt responsible for smoothing over moments like that.
I would follow him, explain myself again, or try to find a compromise that made him less unhappy.
This time, I stayed where I was.
It wasn't punishment.
It was simply the first time I had allowed him to sit with his own disappointment.
Thomas called shortly after two.
I took the phone into the study and closed the door.
He told me that he had received some of the necessary information and was arranging the next stage of the review.
I listened carefully.
Then I asked the questions I had written in my notebook.
He answered what he could and explained which matters still required attention.
I did not ask him to predict a final amount.
I did not ask him to speed things up for Paul's sake.
Before we ended the call, I asked about Dad's instructions concerning the private meeting.
Thomas was quiet for a moment.
“Your father wanted you to understand your position before you made decisions under pressure.”
I looked down at my notebook.
“Did he tell you he was worried about Paul?”
“I would prefer not to speculate about what he thought of another person. What I can tell you is that he wanted you to have an opportunity to consider his arrangements independently.”
I understood the distinction.
Thomas was not going to turn my father's estate into a discussion about my husband's character.
That was not his job.
But the instruction itself mattered.
Dad had wanted me to understand what I was receiving before anyone else influenced my decisions.
“Thank you,” I said.
After the call, I remained in the study for several minutes.
I could hear Paul moving around downstairs.
A cupboard opened.
Water ran.
Then his footsteps crossed the hallway.
I looked at the notebook.
My questions had not changed the estate.
They had changed how I approached it.
I would no longer assume that someone else's confidence meant I should hurry.
I would no longer agree to something simply because another person had already imagined it happening.
And I would no longer feel guilty for asking to understand what I was being asked to accept.
When I went downstairs, Paul was at the kitchen table.
He looked up immediately.
“Was that Thomas?”
“Yes.”
“What did he say?”
“He explained the next steps.”
“Did he give you any figures?”
“Not a final amount.”
Paul exhaled sharply.
“Of course not.”
I sat opposite him.
“He is handling the estate. It takes time.”
“Everything takes time when lawyers are involved.”
“Paul, this isn't a competition to see how quickly we can spend the money.”
His expression hardened.
“That's not what I'm doing.”
I remembered the list of estimated inheritance figures he had written on the previous evening's financial statements.
I remembered the confidence with which he had offered Denise two hundred thousand dollars.
I did not need to accuse him of anything.
The facts were already sitting between us.
“I want us to stop making plans based on assumptions,” I said.
He stared at the table.
“Fine.”
I waited.
He did not say anything else.
That evening, he called Gloria.
I did not hear the entire conversation, but I heard him explain that the estate was still being reviewed.
He told her not to make any commitments about moving.
When he finished, he stood in the kitchen for a while.
“She was disappointed,” he said.
“I imagine she was.”
“She thought we would be able to help soon.”
“I understand why she thought that.”
He looked at me.
“I'm the one who told her.”
“Yes.”
He lowered his eyes.
For a moment, I thought he might finally say he was sorry.
Instead, he asked whether I wanted tea.
I said yes.
He filled the kettle.
We stood beside the counter while the water heated.
Neither of us spoke.
It was not a reconciliation.
But it was a quiet moment in which neither of us tried to turn the conversation into an argument.
I accepted it for what it was.
When the kettle clicked off, Paul made two cups.
He placed mine beside the sympathy cards I had moved earlier.
I wrapped my hands around the warm mug.
For the first time in days, I did not feel the need to explain myself.
I simply drank my tea.
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