PART 9 – I Thought the Worst Part Would Be His Anger, but the Messages He Sent Made Me Question Our Marriage

The following morning began with a bottle rolling off the counter.

It hit the floor before I could catch it.

I stood there looking at it, too tired to bend down immediately.

Then one of the babies cried.

I picked up the bottle, washed it again, and went to the nursery.

There was no time to feel sorry for myself.

That had become the rule of my life.

I took care of whatever needed attention first, even when I was the person who needed attention most.

By midmorning, I had managed to feed all three babies.

I had also changed two outfits, washed a small pile of clothes, and reheated my coffee twice.

I was sitting beside the crib when my phone vibrated.

Ethan had sent another message.

He wanted to know whether I was going to answer his calls.

I looked at the screen.

I had no idea how to explain that I was not ignoring him to punish him.

I was simply trying to get through a day that did not stop for arguments.

I typed a short reply.

I'm taking care of the babies. I'll talk when I can.

His answer arrived almost immediately.

You always have an excuse.

I stared at those words.

Always.

As though I had spent our marriage avoiding responsibility.

As though I had been the one who closed a bedroom door and left the other person to handle everything.

I put the phone down.

I did not answer.

A few minutes later, I picked it up again.

I wanted to explain myself.

I wanted to remind him of the surgery, the sleepless nights, and the way I had begged him to stay.

But I knew how the conversation would go.

He would defend his job.

He would explain his exhaustion.

He would say I was making him feel guilty.

And somehow, I would end up defending the fact that I needed help.

I put the phone away for good.

At least for that morning.

The babies were beginning to wake again, and I had to prepare for another round of feeding.

I moved between them carefully.

My body still reminded me that recovery was not something I could rush.

Sometimes the pain caught me unexpectedly.

Sometimes I had to sit down before I finished a simple task.

I stopped pretending those moments did not matter.

When I needed to rest, even briefly, I rested.

It was not enough.

But it was something I could give myself.

Later, Ethan called again.

This time, I answered because all three babies were asleep and I had a few minutes.

"What do you want to talk about?" I asked.

He sounded annoyed.

"I want to know why you're acting like I'm the enemy."

I rubbed my forehead.

"I'm not acting like anything. I'm tired."

"You're still angry about the vacation."

I looked toward the window.

Sunlight had fallen across the kitchen floor.

There was a clean bottle drying beside the sink, and my coffee cup sat next to it.

The ordinary details made his question feel even stranger.

He was talking as if the vacation were the only problem between us.

"Ethan, you left me alone with our children."

"I told you I needed a break."

"And I told you I needed help."

"You could have arranged help."

I took a slow breath.

"I needed you to help me."

He said nothing for a moment.

Then he answered in a tone that sounded almost reasonable.

"I can't be the answer to every problem you have."

I felt the words settle inside me.

I had never asked him to solve every problem.

I had asked him to share the one we had created together.

"I didn't ask you to fix everything," I said. "I asked you not to leave."

He sighed.

"We're going in circles."

Maybe we were.

But we had been going in circles long before he boarded that plane.

I asked for help.

He explained why he needed rest.

I explained what I was dealing with.

He told me I was too emotional.

Then we stopped talking, and nothing changed.

"I have to go," I said.

He started to protest.

I ended the call.

For the first time, I did not feel the need to check whether he had sent another message.

I returned to the nursery.

One of the babies had moved his little hand against the blanket.

I watched him for a few seconds.

Then I sat down on the floor beside the crib.

I thought about the future.

I had no idea what the next month would look like.

I did not know whether Ethan would come home ready to apologize or determined to prove that I had wronged him.

I only knew that the way we had been living could not continue.

I needed a partner.

Not somebody who helped only when it suited him.

Not somebody who considered my exhaustion less important because I was at home.

A partner.

I had believed I already had one.

Now I was no longer certain.

That evening, I washed the coffee cup and put it on the shelf.

I prepared the bottles for the next feeding.

I checked the babies one more time before sitting down.

The house was quiet again.

My phone remained silent.

For a little while, I let it stay that way.

I did not know what Ethan was thinking.

But I was finally beginning to pay attention to what I was thinking myself.

And that was harder than I expected.

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