I used to believe that if I stayed quiet, people would eventually leave me alone.
I was wrong.
At seventeen, I thought being invisible was the safest way to get through high school.
Unfortunately, Brenda Vance had a habit of noticing me.
Not because she cared about me.
Because she enjoyed making sure everybody else noticed me, too.
I attended Oakridge High in 1971.
My clothes were usually hand-me-downs from an older cousin.
There was nothing unusual about that in our house.
My mother made sure I had clean clothes, something warm for winter, and shoes that still had enough life in them.
She never complained about what we couldn't afford.
She simply found ways to make things last.
Brenda saw those clothes differently.
She could identify almost every dress I owned.
Sometimes she remembered them better than I did.
One morning, I walked through the school hallway wearing a green floral dress.
Brenda spotted me near the lockers.
She looked me up and down, then smiled at her friends.
"Didn't you wear that one last week?"
I kept walking.
She wasn't finished.
"Actually, I think that's the third time this month."
Her friends laughed.
I pretended to be interested in the books inside my arms.
I had learned that answering her only gave her another opportunity.
So I said nothing.
That was the way most of those years went.
A comment.
A laugh.
A few people turning their heads.
Then me, pretending it hadn't happened.
My father had died when I was eleven.
After that, my mother carried more responsibility than one person should have had to carry.
She worked two jobs.
She came home tired.
Sometimes her hands were rough from work, and there were evenings when she barely had enough energy to sit down.
Still, she made time for me.
She repaired loose buttons.
She fixed torn seams.
She showed me how to thread a needle and how to keep the fabric from bunching beneath the machine.
She used to say that something didn't become worthless simply because somebody else stopped appreciating it.
I didn't understand why she repeated that lesson.
Not then.
But I remembered it.
Especially when junior prom approached.
I wanted a dress.
Not an expensive one.
Not something that would make me look wealthy.
I just wanted something that belonged to me.
Something I could wear without worrying about Brenda recognizing it from the previous week.
We didn't have money for a store-bought gown.
My grandmother had kept some blue-check cotton fabric that had originally been intended for a tablecloth.
My mother brought it out.
She examined the material with her fingers.
Then she looked at me.
"Would you like to make something with this?"
I wasn't sure.
It sounded like another reason for people to laugh.
But my mother didn't push.
She simply placed the fabric on the kitchen table.
I finally nodded.
That was how we began.
For three weekends, the kitchen table became our sewing station.
We worked beneath a dim light.
The fabric was spread across the table, with scissors, pins, thread, and a measuring tape arranged around it.
My mother measured twice before cutting.
I held the material whenever she needed another pair of hands.
The zipper gave us trouble.
One sleeve had to come out and be sewn again.
The waist wasn't perfectly even.
I remember looking at the dress and noticing every little mistake.
My mother noticed me looking.
"Something bothering you?"
"It's not perfect."
She leaned back and examined it.
"Neither am I."
I laughed.
It was a small laugh, but it helped.
When the dress was finished, I tried it on.
My mother stopped what she was doing.
She looked at me for a moment.
Then she covered her mouth.
"Oh, Martha."
I suddenly felt nervous.
"What?"
She shook her head.
"Nothing. Just look at you."
I stood in front of her.
She came closer and adjusted the shoulder.
"You look beautiful."
I wanted to believe her.
For once, I did.
The prom was the following evening.
A quiet boy named Tommy Mercer had agreed to take me.
He wasn't particularly popular.
He wasn't loud.
I thought that meant he might understand what it felt like to be uncomfortable around people who enjoyed embarrassing others.
I was wrong about that, too.
When Tommy arrived, I was already wearing the blue-check dress.
He looked at me and smiled.
"You ready?"
I nodded.
I had never been so nervous about leaving the house.
The dance was already underway when we arrived.
There was music, decorations, and a table with refreshments along one side of the room.
I tried not to think about whether anyone was looking at my dress.
For a little while, everything seemed fine.
Tommy and I began dancing.
Then Brenda appeared.
She came toward us with the same confident expression she always wore in the school hallways.
Her eyes moved over my dress.
She reached out and pinched a little section of the sleeve.
"Tommy, did she tell you where she got that material?"
He looked confused.
Brenda didn't wait for an answer.
"She made it herself. It used to be tablecloth fabric."
A few people nearby turned around.
I felt my face getting warm.
Brenda laughed.
"Maybe she can put it on the refreshment table afterward. It might save everyone from spilling punch."
The laughter came quickly.
Too quickly.
I looked at Tommy.
I didn't need him to make a speech.
I didn't need him to argue with everybody.
I just wanted him to say something.
Anything.
Instead, he gave a nervous little laugh.
That was enough.
I stopped dancing.
I looked down at the dress my mother had spent three weekends helping me make.
Suddenly, I could see every uneven stitch.
Every place where the zipper had fought us.
Every little imperfection I had once thought made it special.
I left the dance.
I walked nearly two miles home.
I didn't have my coat.
The night air was cold, but I barely noticed.
I kept thinking about the people laughing.
And Tommy.
Especially Tommy.
When I reached home, my mother found me sitting on the front porch.
She came outside and sat beside me.
She didn't immediately ask what had happened.
She put an arm around my shoulders.
I was crying too hard to explain everything properly.
Eventually, I managed to tell her.
She listened.
Then she looked at the dress.
"There is nothing wrong with what you're wearing."
I wiped my face.
"I never want to put it on again."
She didn't argue.
She didn't tell me I was being foolish.
She simply held me closer.
"Then you don't have to."
I looked at her.
She continued quietly.
"But don't let another person's unkindness decide what something is worth."
I didn't answer.
I was seventeen.
I wanted to be accepted.
I wanted to walk into a room without wondering who was going to laugh at me.
My mother understood something I couldn't understand yet.
The problem had never been the dress.
But it would take me years to believe that.
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The Blue-Checked Dress That Taught Me How Much One Cruel Laugh Could Cost
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