PART 18 – Thirty People Filled My House With Noise and Expectations, but the First Time Vanessa Needed Me, I Was No Longer There to Rescue Her

The following morning, I received a photograph from Colin.

It showed the living room crowded with coats, bags, and people I recognized from family gatherings over the years.

Vanessa's parents stood near the staircase.

Children sat on the floor beside a pile of wrapped gifts.

Someone had placed a tray of food on the coffee table.

The house looked full.

I studied the picture for a moment.

Then I put the phone down.

I was not angry that people were enjoying themselves.

I had never objected to family gatherings.

Diane had loved having people over, although she would have planned the menu around what the household could reasonably manage.

She would never have expected one person to pay for everything while everyone else enjoyed the celebration.

I wondered whether Vanessa had remembered that distinction.

A little later, Colin called.

I answered.

“Hi, Dad.”

“Hello.”

He sounded tired.

“How's everything going?”

There was a pause.

“Busy.”

I waited.

“The relatives are here, and everyone's getting settled.”

“I'm glad they arrived safely.”

He sighed.

“Vanessa has a lot to do.”

I looked out the window.

“I imagine she does.”

“She thought you might come back for dinner.”

“I told you I was going to be away.”

“I know.”

He sounded frustrated, but he did not raise his voice.

I could hear people talking in the background.

Someone laughed.

A door closed.

Then Colin spoke again.

“It's just different without you.”

I let that sentence sit between us.

Part of me wanted to ask whether he meant the cooking, the cleaning, or the money.

I chose not to.

“You'll manage,” I said.

He did not answer immediately.

Then he said goodbye.

I put the phone away.

For the rest of the morning, I occupied myself with ordinary things.

I bought a few groceries for myself.

I took a short walk.

I read part of a book I had brought from home, although my attention wandered more than once.

At midday, I heated a simple meal and ate it at the small table by the window.

I thought about the four-page grocery list Vanessa had handed me.

The expensive meat.

The imported cheeses.

The seafood and pastries.

The photographer.

I wondered whether she had managed to buy everything.

Then I reminded myself that I did not need to know.

Her choices were hers.

The consequences were hers, too.

That afternoon, my phone rang again.

Vanessa's name appeared on the screen.

I answered because I wanted to hear what she had to say.

“Where are you?”

“I'm away, as I told Colin.”

“Well, things are rather chaotic here.”

I waited.

“There are people everywhere, and we still have so much to do.”

“I understand.”

She seemed irritated by my answer.

“Could you come back for a little while?”

I looked at the clock.

“No.”

The silence on the other end was immediate.

“Why not?”

“Because I arranged to be away.”

“But we have thirty people here.”

I closed my eyes briefly.

“You invited them.”

Her voice became sharper.

“I thought you would help.”

I had expected that sentence.

Perhaps she had expected it to work.

“I hope the gathering goes well,” I said. “But you'll need to handle the arrangements yourself.”

She ended the call without saying goodbye.

I sat quietly for a while.

I could feel the old guilt trying to return.

I pictured the kitchen crowded with dishes.

I imagined Vanessa moving between rooms, trying to keep everyone comfortable.

I imagined Colin looking for a way to avoid an argument.

Then I remembered the master bedroom.

I remembered the broken sofa bed in the basement.

I remembered my son telling me that giving up the room was not a big deal.

The guilt faded.

Not completely.

But enough.

I had not abandoned a responsibility.

I had refused to accept one that had never been mine.

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