I used to believe that if someone stayed beside you through your worst days, you never had to question what they were doing when you couldn't see them.
I was wrong about that.
For two years, I couldn't see my own husband's face.
I knew Ashton by his footsteps, the way he cleared his throat before speaking, and the sound of his keys hitting the little wooden bowl near our front door.
I knew when he was tired by the way he dropped his work bag.
I knew when he was worried because he got quiet.
And I knew when he was angry because he stopped trying to hide it.
Those things had become my eyes.
At least, that's what I told myself.
Two years earlier, I had been in a car accident that changed everything about my life.
I remembered the crash in pieces.
A sudden impact.
The awful sound of metal bending.
Pain that seemed to come from everywhere at once.
Then hospital rooms, unfamiliar voices, and doctors explaining injuries I could barely understand through the medication.
I had broken several bones.
I spent months recovering, learning how to move without hurting myself, and trying to accept that my body wasn't going to return to normal overnight.
But the worst news came when I realized I couldn't see.
At first, I thought it was temporary.
The doctors explained that my eyes and the injuries surrounding my vision needed time, and they couldn't promise me a complete recovery.
There was still a possibility.
A possibility wasn't much to hold on to when you woke up every morning to darkness.
But it was something.
I clung to it.
Ashton clung to me.
Back then, I couldn't have asked for a more devoted husband.
He was the one who helped me sit up when my body still hurt.
He learned how to guide me through our house without making me feel like I was being led around like a child.
He memorized where everything belonged because I kept reaching for things that weren't there.
He moved the little table beside our couch after I bumped into it twice.
He made sure the hallway stayed clear.
And when I needed help getting dressed or showering, he helped me without making me feel embarrassed.
There were mornings when I cried because I couldn't do something as ordinary as find my own toothbrush.
Ashton would take my hand and put it around the handle.
"Here you go. You've got it."
Sometimes, that was all he said.
It was enough.
I remember sitting on the edge of our bed one afternoon, frustrated because I had spilled water down the front of my shirt.
I couldn't stop apologizing.
Ashton knelt in front of me and handed me a towel.
"You're allowed to have a bad day."
I laughed a little through my tears.
"You might regret saying that when I have a bad week."
He smiled.
"Then we'll get through the week."
I believed him.
Looking back, I understand why I held on to those memories so tightly.
They were proof that my life hadn't always been this difficult.
They were proof that Ashton had once looked at me and seen his wife, not another responsibility waiting for him at the end of the day.
For a long time, I never questioned his love.
He drove me to appointments.
He helped me practice walking around places I knew by heart.
He sat beside me when I woke up frightened in the middle of the night, convinced that the darkness would never end.
I wasn't easy to live with.
I knew that.
Some days, I was impatient.
Other days, I was so discouraged that I barely spoke.
There were times when Ashton had to repeat instructions because I was too upset to listen the first time.
He never complained.
Or, at least, he didn't complain where I could hear him.
That distinction would matter later.
Our house slowly became familiar to me in a different way.
I learned how many steps it took to get from the bedroom to the kitchen.
I recognized the change in the floor beneath my feet when I crossed from the hallway into the living room.
I could reach the kitchen counter without searching for it.
The bed was easy.
I knew where my side ended and Ashton's began.
I knew the shape of the bedside table and the small drawer that always stuck when I tried to open it.
I could even tell when the sheets had been changed because the fabric felt different beneath my hands.
I built a life around what I could touch and hear.
It wasn't the life I wanted.
But it was mine.
And Ashton was still part of it.
Then, little things began to change.
I can't point to one particular day when everything turned.
There wasn't a dramatic argument or a sudden confession.
It happened slowly enough that I kept finding excuses for him.
Ashton began sighing when I asked him to help me locate something.
If I misplaced my phone, he sometimes sounded annoyed before he even started looking.
When I needed him to move something out of my way, he would ask why I couldn't remember where it was.
I usually apologized.
That was my first response to almost everything.
"I'm sorry. I didn't mean to make things harder."
He would rub his forehead.
"I know."
But he didn't always sound like he knew.
Sometimes he sounded like he wanted the conversation to end.
We started arguing more often.
Not about anything important, which somehow made it worse.
A cup left on the wrong side of the counter.
A towel I couldn't find.
A question I asked when he had just come home from work.
The arguments never lasted long.
Ashton would walk away, and I would sit alone, trying to figure out how an ordinary evening had become so uncomfortable.
I began wondering whether he was tired of being my husband.
Maybe he was tired of being my caretaker.
I hated myself for thinking that.
He had given me two years of his life, and I was beginning to count every impatient sigh as evidence that he regretted it.
Still, I couldn't stop noticing.
When Ashton came home, I listened for the familiar sound of his keys.
I used to feel relieved when I heard them.
Lately, I sometimes felt nervous.
I would try to guess his mood before he reached the bedroom.
If his footsteps were heavy, I kept my questions to myself.
If he was quiet, I tried not to disturb him.
I was becoming careful around my own husband.
I didn't tell anyone.
What would I say?
That the man who had helped me survive my darkest days was making me feel like an inconvenience?
It sounded ungrateful even inside my own head.
So I kept it to myself.
And I waited for things to get better.
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