PART 15 – I Asked Whether There Was Someone Else in Her Life, but Her Answer Made Me Look at My Own Behavior

The conversation continued slowly.

Neither of us seemed eager to move.

The folder remained between us.

I had admitted the affairs.

Claire had listened.

But there was still one question I couldn't get out of my mind.

The man at the café.

I knew it was selfish.

I knew I had no right to act betrayed.

But I still wanted to understand what his place in Claire's life was.

"Can I ask about him again?"

Claire looked at me.

"Yes."

"Are you involved with him?"

She took a breath.

"No."

I studied her face.

I wanted to believe her.

But I also realized how strange it was that I had spent years expecting her to believe me without evidence.

"Then what is he to you?"

"Someone who helped me when I needed to talk."

"Is he a friend?"

"He's someone I've been speaking with about the situation."

I looked down.

I didn't like the uncertainty.

But I couldn't demand that Claire explain every conversation she had with another person while keeping my own secrets hidden.

"Why was he holding your hand?"

Claire looked at me for a moment.

"I was upset."

I remembered the tear on her cheek.

"He was comforting you?"

She nodded.

I leaned back.

That explanation made sense.

But it also brought another feeling.

Jealousy.

Not because I believed she had betrayed me.

Because someone else had been there when she needed comfort.

Someone else had listened.

Someone else had noticed she was hurting.

And I had been the person who should have been paying attention.

I had been too busy protecting my lies.

I looked at Claire.

"Did you tell him about the affairs?"

"I told him about what had been happening in our marriage."

I nodded.

"Does he know about the children?"

"Yes."

I didn't ask anything else.

For a moment, I wanted to tell her not to see him again.

I wanted to make some kind of demand.

But I stopped myself.

I had no right to make rules about her conversations while refusing to accept responsibility for my own behavior.

"Do you feel close to him?"

Claire looked down.

"Marcus, this isn't about him."

I knew she was right.

Still, I struggled with the thought that she had found support outside our marriage.

For years, I had taken her availability for granted.

Now I was discovering that she could speak to someone else.

That she could make decisions without asking me.

That she could have a life beyond the role I had expected her to fill.

It frightened me.

I had thought of Claire as the constant part of my life.

I had assumed that no matter what I did, she would remain there.

That assumption had allowed me to become careless.

Now I understood how unfair it was.

"Are you happier when you're with him?"

Claire looked at me.

"I feel heard."

I looked away.

Those two words were enough.

I had spent years listening only when it suited me.

Now another person had given her something I had refused to give.

I didn't know what to say.

Claire reached for a glass of water.

She took a small sip and put it down.

Then she looked at me.

"I don't want you turning this into a competition."

I nodded.

"I'm not."

But I knew I had been close to doing exactly that.

I had wanted to make the man the center of the problem.

It was easier to imagine that Claire's actions were the reason our marriage was in danger.

The real problem was sitting across from her.

It was me.

"Are you thinking about ending our marriage?"

I asked.

Claire didn't answer immediately.

She looked toward the kitchen cabinet where she had taken the folder from.

Then she looked back at me.

"I've been thinking about what kind of life I can continue living."

I felt a knot form in my stomach.

She continued.

"I haven't forgotten our good years. I haven't forgotten the children. But I can't pretend the bad years didn't happen."

I nodded.

I wanted to promise that things would be different.

But I knew promises had become meaningless.

Claire needed more than words.

And I was finally beginning to understand that.

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